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Perfectionism and People Pleasing

I have done a lot of reading in my life, and a lot of learning. Over time, and the mostly over the past year, I have learned a lot about myself and how I have lived.  I will let you know that I have been reading a lot of The FlyLady website, as well.

What I have found out is that I have always been a perfectionist.  I never thought so, since I didn’t stress out over not getting an A in school, or that my hair was parted off center.  But I did want to make sure that what I did, I did well – and usually to either impress someone else (parents, friends, teachers, etc.) or just stay in good graces and under the radar.  I didn’t want to upset anyone and I didn’t like conflict. I still don’t.

I always thought that changing was overwhelming. So then, I did nothing.  I need to change that cycle and follow some of the baby steps that are out there.  I have to believe that taking things slowly is the best way to build habits.  I don’t have to do everything, all at once, immediately.  Slow and steady wins the race.

2015 is beginning to look up.

Today’s list of what I am thankful for/ proud of…

1.  The FlyLady website

2.  Evernote – I love lists and this is helping me remember what I need to do each day

3.  I played around with YouTube and learned a bit about it – but not yet how to create a channel under my account (if (possible).

4.  The love I have for my son – and I cannot wait to see and talk to him soon!

5.  Having a job,even if it is part time, so that I can give more to my family.


New Month, New Goals

This is a month where things start coming to an end, yet here we are beginning a new challenge.  Not to mention that it’s a daily challenge.  As if there aren’t enough things going on in November, especially with the Holiday season approaching.

To me, this means that I will (hopefully) learn something about time management.  I’ve never been good with that.

This brings me to the first post of NaBloPoMo in 2014.

My Goals for the month of November – Top 5, in no particular order anyway.

  1. Speak with my husband and son more often – no matter how hard it feels.  It can only get easier.
  2. To post once per day for the month of November
  3. To take myself less seriously, but to take better care of myself (no, I don’t count that as two!)
  4. Spend more time learning new skills – ie. Time Management, Budgeting, Home Management
  5. Make the best hand out of the cards I have been given this month.

I am sure there are more things I could do, or should, but another of the issues I need to work on is biting off more than I can chew.  I see the end result, but get overwhelmed by thinking that I have to get there now.  I have to remember that there are baby steps I can take every day to achieve these goals.  I guess another issue I have is lack of patience when it comes to this kind of thing.

Figures, right?